FAQs

Frequently Asked Questions | Shibari Lounge

Welcome to the Shibari Lounge FAQ — your cosy corner for answers to the most common questions about our events, ropes, community, and space. Whether you’re completely new to rope or deep into your shibari journey, we’re here to help you feel informed, safe, and warmly welcomed.🩵

Can I come alone or do I need a partner?

Absolutely! Many guests attend solo — whether to tie, be tied, observe, or simply learn from our every growing library of resources. Our jams and workshops are friendly and inclusive, and partner-matching often happens organically. There’s no pressure, just a supportive space to explore.

Want to connect with someone in advance? Join our Discord server and pop into the #find-a-rope-partner channel to say hello.

Is Shibari Lounge beginner-friendly?

Yes, wholeheartedly! We adore welcoming newcomers. Our rope jams and many of our workshops are designed to be accessible for all levels. If a session has any prerequisites, we’ll always state them clearly in the event listing.

Do I have to tie or be tied to attend?

Not at all. You’re welcome to simply watch, sketch, chat, sip tea, and learn at your own pace. We encourage exploration without pressure.

What should I wear to a rope jam?

There’s no formal dress code, but we encourage outfits that are comfortable, easy to move in, and help you feel like your best, most confident self. Here’s what most people tend to wear:

  • Gym or yoga wear

  • Bodysuits or lingerie/boxers

  • Shorts and a fitted top

  • Pyjamas or a onesie? Absolutely — if that’s your vibe, go for it!

We recommend avoiding bulky or restrictive clothing like jeans, and full nudity isn’t permitted to help maintain a comfortable environment for all. Think: stretchy, soft, breathable — and easy to tie in.

Do I need to bring my own rope to a jam or workshop?

Nope — especially if you're just starting out. Rope can be an investment, and it's best to try a few styles first.

We provide a selection of communal ropes for you to borrow and explore:

  • Jute

  • Hemp

  • Cotton

  • Nylon

As your confidence grows, you might feel ready to invest in your own rope for practising more personal or advanced ties at home. We offer premium-grade jute rope in our Shibari Lounge Shop — beautifully hand treated and finished, beginner-friendly, and trusted by experienced riggers. Not sure what’s right for you? We’re always happy to chat or recommend other reputable suppliers who meet our high safety and quality standards.

What rope do you personally tie with, and where is it from?

Our team enjoys a mix of natural and synthetic ropes for different types of tying, sensations, and performance.

Our current favourites include:

Every rope has its unique character — we love helping others find what suits them best.

How do I book tickets for events?

You can browse and book all upcoming rope jams, workshops, and community events via our Ticket Tailor page.

To get first dibs on new listings:

  • Follow us on Instagram & FetLife → @ShibariLounge

  • Join our newsletter for early booking access and exclusive discounts

Whether you're searching for a shibari course in Essex, a rope jam near London, or a kink-friendly learning space, you’re in the right place.

Is this a kink event or a social/educational space?

Shibari Lounge is first and foremost a rope-focused, consent-forward learning environment. While some events touch on kink or sensual elements, we are not a dungeon or sex party. Everything we host is built around trust, communication, and community.

Is your venue accessible?

We aim to make our venue as welcoming and accessible as possible. If you have any physical or sensory access needs, we’re happy to chat beforehand and accommodate wherever we can.

Still curious?

Reach out to 📧 hello@shibarilounge.co.uk or drop us a DM on Instagram, Discord or Fetlife — we’re always happy to chat and help you feel at home.